Just realised this is still up!

Well looking back at this all I got to say this to the 20 year old me is...just shut up no one wants to listen to you whine! and to everyone who read it I'm really sorry! 😂

Advice

Its important how you decide to lead your life...are you the kind of person who depends on others for guidance or are you the one who likes to make your own mistakes and finds your way, Either way you are bound to find a lot of people who will be out there with their bags of advice to give you.. Its important to be patient and listen to those who provide u the same but even more important to know whose advice to buy! Ultimately it is your life that you alone are responsible for! No one will have any special preference for a misguided person, so its your responsibility to know what is good for you!

There are two types of people who would be good at giving advice, one who has had a good life so far and has known what it is like to be successful after working for it this guy will know what to do!, and secondly the kind of person who has had no luck with success and knows what not to do!...And usually people tend to listen to the first kind, but i feel that the second kind also provides important information, he will be the person who will keep you grounded! Here i am not saying that you worry and waste time but its good to know both ways, it reduces your chances of going wrong.

The first set of people who everyone gets advice from is your folks, and this is the most genuine form of advice you will ever get, But from your folks the advice is usually a little too assertive, so much so that you do not want to listen! and this form of advice is mixed with extra concern and a sense of responsibility they feel towards you, because they do not want you to go wrong at all! and this usually is not the best way to get good advice.Hence advice from a third party who has a no gain no loss situation may prove to be more useful!

One who knows this secret will always know who to talk to when in trouble and also the person who will soon not need advice from anybody! :)

To end this i leave you with one of my favorite lines from "The Sunscreen song" by Baz Luhrmann he sums it up beautifully!

"Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who
Supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of
Fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the
Ugly parts and recycling it for more than
It's worth."
-Baz Luhrmann

phases....

If we were to sit down and try to figure out our life, all that we are bound to find are a series of phases!....We, as humans undergo inevitable and constant change!...For instance the things we believed to be true and followed like a religion some five years ago have mutated so drastically that now those same things do not make sense at all!.... Think about it!...To share a personal experience to prove the same i have this example to give....five years ago i was very sure that i don't want to get into a technical field and that i will never pursue anything close to science and technology...but today here i am on the verge of completing my Engineering in computer science and waiting to join a hard core technical firm! and the funniest part is that i am not even complaining!..

Now to talk about phases.....apart from the common factor that everyone has these various phases in life the most ridiculous part is that most of us undergo the same set of stereotypical phases!....starting from the very beginning!
As children we all have had the first phase where we couldn't stay a minute away from our mothers...and then slowly came the babysitting phase where we threw countless tantrums to avoid going there and later the same continued till nursery!....sometimes i wonder how all of us thought of "stomachache" as the sole excuse for bunking school! i mean where did we learn that from!?!....o'course we all eventually did understand that there is no way out and school is the place where we get to spend our day!......

Soon after this comes the phase where we slowly detach from our folks!....suddenly friends become the center of your life!...your friends approval counts more than your parents!...and soon your parents become "uncool" and the only conversations that you have with your folks is studies and marks!...

Then comes the college phase.....We all enter college life with a lot of hope and anxeity!..We hope for a life changing experience here and we are anxious about all that is about to change!....We tend to believe that this is the real world...which is the biggest mistake we all tend to make....we see achievers in making here....we get the first taste of failure also here...We worry about things that later we are bound to laugh at!...we fight over things that mean the world to us but later they loose its significance....we fall in and out of love...some are lucky to find their ultimate soulmate here, and others learn to deal with constant heartbreak!............So here i am standing at the end of this beautiful phase and waiting to see what this life has in store for me ahead! :)

and we say its complicated!!

Its funny how often we hear this when asked "oh are you seeing anybody?" and they say "Oh its complicated!"...the truth is that it is never complicated, but its the fear of accepting how you feel about a person!...I was surprised to discover that so many people out there are never sure of what they want...they might be insanely in love with someone but too scared to accept it...or fear of rejection can be another reason for for calling your status "complicated"....
Now you must be wondering why i am talking about something that we all already know!...the reason is simple I have a solution for this..and it is again something we all know "Communication!!"...communicate, talk to the person you think you have a complicated relation with! Don't expect them to be mind readers!..get an answer once and for all! and not just from the other person but also from your own heart!...if it was meant to be it will happen..And it is important to give yourself that chance because if you never try you will never know what you are really worth!...uncertainty is a bad place to be in...so go out there and get yourself out of the complication! :D

Tyag!

On guru poornima this year I was lucky to experience revelation! I cannot thank Uday Acharyaji enough for explaining the meaning of something as complicated as the concept of ‘Tyaga’ with such simplicity.

The discussion started off with acharyaji asking all of us present to talk about some topic that we liked or rather some topic that affected us the most!...When the pointer came to me I was clear about what I wanted to talk about the motive behind my choosing a topic like “tyaga” was to get an opportunity to learn more about it..

I started off saying that “Tyaga” is one of the most fascinating traits that a person can possess, to be able to do Tyaga one must be able to let go of things they love the most for a higher cause, and then I went on saying that at some point we all have to sacrifice something at some level, But to do it and not regret it, that is where all the difference comes, and because it is one of the most difficult things to do the person who is able to do tyaga in its true sense is considered great.

I ended my little speech with that, everyone seemed impressed with my perception of tyaga. But I was waiting for acharyaji’s approval, He was smiling and then asked a simple question “why does one do tyaga?” I said for a higher cause and to be happy. Then he went on to tell us what the concept of tyaga really meant, He explained with the example of the sacrifices a mother does for her child, “Why does a mother willingly sacrifice for her child?” he asked to that someone answered “because of love”, the next thing he asked was “what is love?”…now we had all heard and felt that word but no one could explain it!....Acharyaji with simplicity said that “Love was a feeling of oneness”, He continued “now if I do tyaga for someone I love then the thing that I sacrifice has not gone anywhere!, it is just like shifting that thing from one pocket to other “…..this was the point where everyone burst into involuntary applause!.....i was smiling more than I ever have….

The experience of learning about “tyaga” that I thought was so complicated with such simplicity was truly amazing!

some things i've been pondering upon

Recently i had to go through a little difficult time which has somewhere helped me grow and realize that being happy is a choice u make everyday...

You could either sit and cry about how fate turned all your plans upside down..or change your plan, make use of the available resources and make the best out of it...

Its important to take time out and figure yourself out because you are the only person who can change yourself... its not important what other people think about you...but self image is vital..

Love yourself and you will be shocked to find out what an amazing lover you are!

Take responsibility of the mistakes you have made...Don't blame others for the mistakes you've made..because unless you own up you will never be able to get better!

music makes me happy!

Nowadays music has become an integral part of our lives..and earphones almost a part of our body!..the reason is not just that people want to show off their fancy i-pods or phones!...but the basic reason being that music makes you happy!...
There is music that suits every mood..if you've had a bad day..or have been subjected to some terrible MU paper then try some hard rock!..I'm sure it will make you feel a lot better...and that is why we have most of the metal heads in engineering colleges!...
Music has great power to subside wasteful feelings like anger...this is something i have experienced and I think its worth sharing!...
When your favorite song comes up on the radio even if you are in a bad mood that song does bring a wide smile on your face..doesn't it?
Even science says that music heals there are various music therapies for people suffering from psychological disorders....So incorporate some quality music into your lives and stay happy!